To my Mom, my Mentor
It feels ironic for me to hear people often speak of their “mentors” growing up. It’s usually one of some sort of notoriety. I don’t ever recall having one, specifically. I’ve tried to think who I would have chosen, and why, but none come to mind. If anything, I’ve had one’s of “seasons” or “reasons” throughout my life, or just one’s that I admire, in general. For academic intellect and adventurous spirit, I am inspired by Elizabeth Drachman. In college, I was inspired by both Dr Whalen and Dr Hadley, for their lessons in independent thinking. Professionally, admire and respect Lindsay, for her willingness to take big risks. I admire Neil, for his kind spirit. He truly see’s the best in people and is the most patient person I have ever met. I have to say, that business wise, I admire Donald Trump for his resilience and “balls before tact” style. He’s kind of raw and over the top, I know, but I do like him. Megyn Kelly is pretty amazing too. She’s a great example of worldly knowledge paired with thoughtful delivery of opinion and confident debate. But all in all, there are few people in my life that I truly would say have “mentored” me, in entirety. I feel I have noticed and appreciated the talents of the one’s above, because their strengths challenge me to step outside of my comfort zone or way of thinking.
So why am I sharing this with you? Those folks in particular stand out to me because they have significant STRENGTHS, that filled a gap where I wanted to become better. But who gave me the strengths I already possess, and take for granted? YOU did. Instead of there being that big, “ah-ha” person that came along, you were the strong and steady source that influenced me daily, quietly through your actions over my entire life. You have always been a peacemaker. You have always been a voice of reason. You have always sought to teach and talk from the heart. You are the one person that without a thought, I want a second opinion from. You are that person who, I want to hear your input, to share my ideas and spend my time with. I respect your opinion. Your words strengthen my soul. You have always been an intense listener. You are genuinely interested in others. I love and learn from how you spend your days. When most are bored to tears in their retirement, your days are filled with delight, joy and activity. You live your days happy and find joy in what ever you choose to do. I LOVE learning from your life example.
Sure, I have a lot of dad’s traits, too. His dry humor, his edginess, and his instinct. But YOU, are the one person that I can say, consistently throughout my entire life, I look to for guidance and approval. I now understand, why I never felt the need to seek out a mentor, as a child. YOU, were my mentor. How many people can say that theirs is their MOM? Your character and way you live your life, inspires the way I live mine, daily. I have learned from others, but you have given me my core. Thank you, mom, for giving me your legacy of life quality. You’ve blazed the trail for how I want to live and the person I strive to be.
I love you.