Getting in the Game of Life by Seay Stanford

<< I was just a little kid that kept SHOWING UP >> I look back at when I was six years old at my fist day of soccer practice. Most kids probably wouldn't have returned. I was the only girl on a boys team. (and I had a boy haircut- I wasnt

Soccer Mom SeayStanford.com
Soccer Mom SeayStanford.com

even cute) My parents bought me white "softball cleats" because that's what was on sale and I was teased because I didnt have black "Nike" or "Patricks" which were the trend back then. When coach said to dribble the ball, I picked it up and bounced it. Heck- I didnt know what he meant because basketball was the main sport on TV. I was pushed around and was told by the boys I was too small to "really" play. They didnt welcome me and mocked my every mistake. After practice, I went home and cried. I didnt fit in. My mom, being a protector, said that maybe cheer leading would be a better sport option for me. I believed these "truths" I had heard that day and felt that I didnt belong on the field. I mean, I was TOLD so, right? Then I looked to my dad to validate my truths.

My dad refused. Actually he said things like, "Its not the size of the dog in the fight, its the size of the fight in the dog" and "My shoes will showcase my footwork as I become a leading scorer." and "You are not a girl or a boy on the field, you are a PLAYER."

He had an answer for every truth I'd been told to be true.

Then, he said this about my choice to return to soccer or to cheer: "You can spend your time on the sidelines cheering for someone else's accomplishments OR be out THERE while others are cheering for yours. The choice is YOURS. Where do you BELONG?"

I belonged on the field playing. I was scared of being rejected again, but I held my head high and went BACK. And I kept going back. Our first game ended with 2-0 win as a result of MY two goals. After the game my dad ran out to the field, pulled my white cleat off and held it high for all to see. He said to my team, "EVERYONE saw Seay's winning goals because of these glorious WHITE shoes! No one missed her moves." What I lacked in height and power I made up for in speed, vision and tenacity.   By the end of my first season I was the leading scorer on the team.  And, to my surprise a few other kids started wearing white cleats, too ;-)

Life is about where you position yourself in the ACTION. Are you tired of sitting in the bleachers watching others live the life that you want? If you want something, surround yourself with people that strengthen your spirit and go after it. Don't believe in the truths that people tell you. Make your OWN and keep showing up. See yourself as the participant, and not a spectator. Get rid of the excuses and look at challenges and differences as opportunity. Your mind will follow the vision you create for yourself. You CAN accomplish anything if you step off the bleachers and get in the game <3

Seay Stanford
Seay Stanford

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