Easing Class Reunion Anxiety can be tough! We all experience class reunion anxiety when that invite shows up. We wonder if the jock still looks great, or if the perky head cheerleader is still the charming girl she was. Did the person voted most likely to succeed actually succeed? What about the class wall flower? Is she still the shy girl or has she finally blossomed? We often find the answers to those questions during the summer months when most high school reunions take place.
The Dreaded Invite
When that invite arrives this summer you will likely feel a bit apprehensive, perhaps even a little intimidated. You may wonder if you’re successful enough, or if those old feelings of inadequacies will return. The truth is we’ve all felt inadequate, even the popular kids. In high school, we are still trying to figure out who we are, and what we want. We do this under a social structure filled with cliques of classmates design for alienation rather inclusion.
Think for a minute about the John Hughes movie the Breakfast Club. Each of the characters was from a different social group within the school. They admit they would never be friends, yet they came together by the end of the day realizing they had the same pressures, the same fears, and the similar dreams. We don’t realize our similarities until much later in life. By the time, we attend our reunion it’s a leveled playing field, and we have more life experiences in common than we think. We’ve hopefully lost our pretenses and airs. Sure, some cliques will remain but they may not be as exclusionary as they once were.
Still, people opt to skip the reunion as the anxiety and fear is too much to deal with. In some cases, people they haven’t thought about in 25 years still mean nothing to them and there’s no reason to go back. They may be happy not subjecting themselves to any scrutiny. Reality is the scrutiny is in their heads. By the time we’ve all been married, had children and perhaps divorced, we have no need of judging others.
Unfortunately, it’s human nature to judge and we judge most often on appearance. We all have one thing in common; we’ve all aged. Some have aged well, others not so much. None of us is particularly immune to the middle age weight gain, and most, if asked would say they struggle with it. Packing on a few pounds over the years does not let us look our best and we worry what others may think causing reunion anxiety.
There is a line in the Breakfast Club that sums up what we all may flashback to before a reunion. John Bender says to Claire Standish, “ … See I'm not sure if you know this, but there are two kinds of fat people: there's fat people that were born to be fat, and there's fat people that were once thin but became fat... so when you look at 'em you can sorta see that thin person inside. You see, you're gonna get married, you're gonna squeeze out a few puppies and then, uh...”
Making the Best of Photo Ops
It’s a scary thought isn’t it? We all panic bit thinking about how we look and how others will perceive us. We know there will be pictures to commemorate the festivities and the last thing most of us want is to look terrible in photos. We start to scramble to get in shape. Some will gravitate toward the perceived fastest way to drop a few pounds and look better in clothing. The fastest is not always the best. Most of the fad diets like the GM diet, or Jenny Craig will result in weight gain when going off the regime. The best way to lose weight and get healthy is to edit what you eat and keep portion control in mind.
Beachbody’s 21 Day Fix is a great program to get in shape while eating real portion controlled foods. It comes with a meal plan, portion controlled containers and a daily workout DVD that provides a cardio and weight training workout.
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