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Social Vibe Sunday: Trust

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SOCIAL VIBE SUNDAY

Let's talk TRUST shall we? Relationships are these funny things. We let people get closer to us based on small tests of "trust" we give the relationship. Test's are sort of a "brumbcrumb" to relationship intimacy.

Can we trust this person with our heart? โ™ฅ๏ธ
Our emotions? ๐Ÿ˜Ÿ
To have our back? ๐Ÿ’ช
With money?๐Ÿ’ต
Their intentions? ๐Ÿ˜
To want the best for us? ๐Ÿ†
To listen and empathize? ๐Ÿค”
Do their actions match their words? ๐Ÿ™ˆ๐Ÿ™‰๐Ÿ™Š

Think about all the little things as your relationship progresses between new friends and partners that move the friendship TOWARDS or AWAY from TRUST.

I actually think someone can be totally trustworthy with one person, and hardly at all with another. I think it depends on the dynamics of the relationship and the level of value and respect it holds between the two people.

My point is, evaluate a relationship based on those trust checks and balances WITH YOU. Not with how they are with others.

Trust is the #1 foundation of any relationship. The more trust, the more it will sustain. And vice versa.
Those small breaks of trust, start as little cracks and later become sinkholes. Even though those holes can be repaired, they will never ever be the same. So just don't break them to begin with....

Be the kind of person YOU'D trust and invest in the people that continue to BUILD yours โค๏ธโค๏ธโค๏ธ

#RefineYourLife

Xo
Seay

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Friendship Gratuity

This thought is about friendship. ๐Ÿ’•

There are those you think to call IMMEDIATELY because they will truly be happy for you when you share news.

I look around me and feel so blessed to have the company I do. But it's not come easy. 
People come and go in our lives and one thing I have learned is that it's very hard to find the kind of people who's "oars run DEEP", as my mom would say. 
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This week I feel especially grateful for my circle of friends. The kind of friends that want the best for you, take the time to listen to you, that ask about you, that reciprocate, that make your life bigger and better and most of all, would be there for you regardless of title, status, convenience and what you can do FOR THEM. 
Because yes- I've had "friends" that were mostly always about them, pretty crappy with integrity, were disrespectful and poor listeners which makes me appreciate finding quality ones that much more. 
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Right now, I look around at the people in our lives and can truly feel the KINDNESS in their hearts. โค๏ธ
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To you, deep friends, I say thank you, I love you and am truly grateful to have you in my life. 
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May we all be and find the kind of people who's OARS RUN DEEP๐Ÿ™๐Ÿผ- if that's what is important to you. โค๏ธ

 Friendship Gratuity

Friendship Gratuity

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You have to win in your HEAD before you can WIN in LIFE.

One of the biggest MYTHS I see people believe is that if their circumstances are DIFFERENT, then they will finally achieve the outcome they desire.

๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸผThey blame OTHERS for their failures, mistakes and circumstances. They can't own their mistakes. It's always someone or something else. ๐Ÿ™„

I see it more often in business, but also in relationships.

๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿผ๐Ÿ‘‰๐ŸผWhen you give away your power by blaming others, you also give away the very opportunity to GROW in your own life. It may feel easier to do short term, but is more damaging to your growth in the long run.

Why?

You stay a victim and you will stay POWERLESS.๐Ÿ˜ž

Feeling powerless will keep you STUCK and ANGRY.๐Ÿ˜ก

And you take that internal angry victim mentality right along with you to the next business or relationship. The people and platform may change, but YOU haven't. ๐Ÿ‘ˆ๐Ÿผ
You and your SAME issues will eventually, resurface when the honeymoon is over.

๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก๐Ÿ˜ก Surrounding yourself with others also stuck in that same powerless anger doesn't validate yours nor does it justify you.

๐ŸŒŸYOU validate, you.๐ŸŒŸ

๐ŸŒนGuess what- there will always be stuff that happens in life. We are always being given opportunities to mature. We ALL have insecure thoughts that get in our head, and we all have triggers that can make us defensive.

๐Ÿค” It's how well you can take ownership in them and GROW from them that will ultimately determine your happiness, mental freedom and long term quality of life.๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ˜Š

๐ŸŒทThe grass is not only greener where you water it, but it also flourishes with the quality of fertilizer you FEED it. ๐ŸŒน

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Interview Someone You Love with these 32 Life Questions by Brendon Burchard

INTERVIEW SOMEONE YOU LOVE ABOUT LIFE
Questions from Brendon Burchard

1. What comes to mind when you think about growing up in [hometown]?

2. What did you love to do as a kid, before high school?

3. What did you love to do in high school?

4. What do remember most about your teenage years?

5. What do you remember most about your mom (grandma)?

6. What was most important to her?

7. What do you remember most about your dad (grandpa)?

8. What was most important to him?

9. If grandma and grandpa had a message to you and their grandchildren, what do you think it is?

10. How did you meet [spouse] and know (s)he was the one?

11. How did you choose your career and what was your favorite part about it?

12. What made you successful at work?

13. What did you believe about yourself that helped you become successful and deal with hard times?

14. What times in your life truly โ€œtested your mettle,โ€ and what did you learn about yourself by dealing (or not dealing) with them?

15. What three events most shaped your life?

16. What do you remember about when each of us was born?

17. Were you ever scared to be a parent?

18. What three words would you say represented your approach to parenting and why?

19. When you think about [sibling] how would you describe him?

20. What message do you have for [sibling] that you want him to always keep in mind?

[Do the last two questions above for each sibling in your family]

21. When you think about [spouse], how would you describe her/him?

22. What message do you have for [spouse] that you want her/him to always keep in mind?

23. What three words would you say best describe who you tried to be in life and how you want to be remembered?

24. When they think about their careers, what do you want your children to focus on?

25. What have you learned about other people in life? (trustworthy, kind or not and mean)?

26. What do you think the world needs more of right now?

27. What do you believe people want the most in life?

28. What were the three best decisions youโ€™ve ever made?

29. What are you most proud of in life?

30. What were five of the most positive moments of your life?

31. What message would you like to share with your family?

32. What are you most thankful for?

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Winning in Your Head

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Winning in Your Head

One of the biggest MYTHS I see people believe is that if their circumstances are DIFFERENT, then they will finally achieve the outcome they desire.

They blame OTHERS for their failures, mistakes and circumstances. They can't own their mistakes. It's always someone or something else.

I see it more often in business, but also in relationships.

When you give away your power by blaming others, you also give away the very opportunity to GROW in your own life. It may feel easier to do short term, but is more damaging to your growth in the long run.

Why?

You stay a victim and you will stay POWERLESS.

Feeling powerless will keep you STUCK and ANGRY.

And you take that internal angry victim mentality right along with you to the next business or relationship. The people and platform may change, but YOU haven't.
You and your SAME issues will eventually, resurface when the honeymoon is over.

Surrounding yourself with others also stuck in that same powerless anger doesn't validate yours nor does it justify you.

YOU validate, you.

Guess what- there will always be stiff that happens in life. We are always being given opportunities to mature. We ALL have insecure thoughts that get in our head, and we all have triggers that can make us defensive.

It's how well you can take ownership in them and GROW from them that will ultimately determine your happiness, mental freedom and long term quality of life.

The grass is not only greener where you water it, but it also flourishes with the quality of fertilizer you FEED it.

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Taking Responsibility for Your Life

Taking Responsibility for Your Life

I once read the โ€œThe Secretโ€ and thought it was some โ€œDisney La-La Hocus Pocusโ€ way to โ€œwishโ€ for what you wanted.