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Hi new friend!

Seay Stanford

Hi 🙋🏼‍♀️! It me! Just thought I’d re-introduce myself since it’s been a minute and I have a lot of new friends this month!

First off, thanks so much for the follow & love on my photos. I put a lot of my heart & soul into my page. It’s really become a passion & expression for me.

So my name is Seay! Looks like "See-ay" but pronounced like "Shay". (It's Gaelic like "Sean" but is really just a pain in my butt explaining it to people every single day. 😡)

⭐️First Life Tip: Don't try and be all "clever" when naming your kids. It's an ongoing time waster for them. Imagine all the brilliant things your kid could actually be saying and doing with their time if they didn't have to explain their name with every hand shake....😜

ABOUT ME:
I was born in Belize, Central America in 1972. I'm actually REALLY from there, 4 generations. Non-military. My husband was born and raised in England and follows the Aston Villa.
Poor guy rarely gets to smile.

My claim to fame was my sophomore year in college I was the 3rd leading scorer in the Nation, in Women’s College Soccer. I still play at 45 years old, but I mostly try and get out of it because I don't like to run all that much anymore. But my totally hot British "futbol" hubby thinks it's kinda hot that I can play, so to keep a 2nd marriage alive, I stick with it. 🔥

Neil and I have three awesome kiddos, Raina (16) who's into everything Figure Skating & Japanese, Reese (14) who's our Civil Air Patrol badass and Reagan (8) who's into camping & gaming. We have a German Wire-haired Pointer FurBaby, named Charlotte, yes, after the little Brit Princess, herself. 🐶

I'm into people with a sense of humor, do what they say they will, are BIG thinkers and wine drinkers.🍷

⭐️ Second Life tip: Wine has been known to actually enhance one’s BIG thinking ability. ;-)

I love ❤️ decorating, gardening, cooking, learning about new cultures through travel and all things turquoise. I'm crap at fashion, make up and hair. 👎🏻 But I'm darn good at photoshop apps and angles that make me look like I can pull my look together. 👍🏻 I'm known for my loyalty, honesty, grit and sarcasm.

PHYSICALLY, I’ve been a “diet dater” my entire adult life. I’ve pretty much tried every “diet” out there for a period of time, only to resort back to savory food and wine. :-p I was in the best shape of my life when I turned 40, and struggled with Breast Implant Illness (which I didnt think was a REAL THING for the longest time). I had my toxic tatas removed in May 2018 and feel like a younger person every day.

One thing I have learned through my struggle is that food consumption for me is more about QUALITY than it is CALORIES. I tried some really scary diet regimes back in the day that I know reeked havoc on my gut and overall health.
Although still not perfect myself, I’ve come to understand the importance of exercise and consuming nutrient-dense super foods while reducing chemicals, pesticides and processed foods. I do feel YEARS of extreme diets and poor food quality has caught up with my body- & didnt help my BII issues, either.

Now, I try to do eat towards health each day and do the best I can, but with an active social life and love for food, I still struggle with consistency.

PROFESSIONALLY, I left Corporate America pharmaceutical sales in 2009 after having Reagan and never looked back. Have you ever felt like life was passing you by because of your job? I missed so much with my children because of work- or was too tired after work to be any good to them.

I have always had this desire to control my own time and have freedom, coupled with the fear of being stuck in a career where I felt like just a number and living with little significance in what I did everyday. I am now a very successful momprenuer that's turned her passion for holistic nutrition education, health and fitness, leadership and public speaking into her home based BUSINESS.

My mission is to inspire you live your potential in health, wealth and overall quality of life.

I hope to add value to your world by sharing fun, fitness, motivation, inspiration, family and sometimes some serious nutrition and business mic drops that may possibly annoy you, but I'm hoping to make you think a little differently 🤔

⭐️Third Business tip: If it doesn't CHALLENGE you, it won't CHANGE you.

I have a business team, called The Refinery, made up of other really awesome people that share my mission to serve others. We have a lot of fun, work hard, celebrate each other, have purpose and BIG dreams for our lives. ✨💞✨💞

If you are still reading this, we are probably meant to be FRIENDS and I’d love to get to know you! I love getting to know others that have a sense of humor, are grateful, hard working, health, fitness, family and vision oriented.

Drop me a message and let’s chat :-)

{{HUGS}}

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Tastey Tuesday and Artificial Flavors ⚗️

TASTEY TUESDAY!!!
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Hey Loves :-)
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By now as we near an end of this group you've hopefully found some pretty amazing recipes that TASTE fabulous!
Taste is such a HUGE part of satiation and I wanted to share what many food companies do to foods, drinks and candies and sauces do to "Cheat" or "heighten" the taste of their products. 
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If you've ever thought "Eh...heathy food tastes BORING" that's because your taste buds have been duped into thinking food is supposed to taste like a chemically made "blueberry" flavor. 
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ARTIFICIAL FLAVORS are cleverly added to it to create that "POP" of flavor in your mouth, and keep you coming back for more. Its been cleverly, DESIGNED that way.

The GOOD news is that you can retrain your taste buds to know what real food tastes like, by phasing out the artificial flavors, resulting in more of an appreciation and desire for the real thing. If you've ever done a natural food cleanse, you'd find that the natural foods you eat actually start BURSTING with flavor. :-)
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Now for the science dork, nutritionist, prior pharmaceutical rep and health advocate in me to chime in so this may only be of interest to some of you -and that is Ok :-)
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You may think, "WHO CARES that my food has artificial flavors!!! Im not concerned about knowing what real vanilla or strawberry tastes like!" That's understandable, but maybe some of the health problems RELATED to these artificial flavors may an interest or explain a few symptoms to you and your littles. 
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Artificial flavor chemicals can cause different allergies and conditions such as hyperactivity and Attention Deficit Disorder in people who are sensitive to specific chemicals. Foods containing these additives can cause asthma, hay fever and certain reactions such as rashes, vomiting, headache, tight chest, hives and worsening of eczema. 
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They may affect RNA, thyroid, and enzymes (affecting RNA can cause tumor growth). I know that part feels alarming but most have NOT been studied for safety or toxicity.

Artificial flavors are synthesized chemicals that don't even have common names. Most artificial flavorings are derived from petroleum and contain many chemical ingredients, not just one. Unfortunately, many of those chemicals can be volatile to our health.
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Here's the take-a-way: Its not likely you will be able to eliminate all artificial flavors in your food choices. 
I don't. 
But you can be way more STRATEGIC and reduce them in your family's food, candy, cereals and drink. :-) And you will notice, with the right ingredients and spices, REAL food will DAZZLE your taste buds and keep you rockin your YOUTHFUL HEALTHY VITALITY :-)
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PS- Remember that all natural superfood shake I keep raving about??? Yep- NO artificial flavors ;-)
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Happy HEALTH and TASTEY Tuesday <3

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Strong Working Women Gain More Freedom


🌟🌟HEYYYYYY——-> ARE YOU AN INDEPENDENT THINKING, STRONG WOMAN? 🌟🌟
Then I’m talking to YOU, girlfriend!
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Did you know 90% of my business partners are made of up independent thinking and driven WOMEN? 
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Women that are: 
🌺stay at home moms
🌺single moms
🌺professional career women
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What is unique is not what they DO, but how they THINK. 
What many of them have in common is that they:
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🌼Want to earn their OWN income, to spend or save as THEY choose without permission.

🌼Want to contribute their energy to an environment that is very POSITIVE and supportive.

🌼Want to MATTER and make a difference to others outside of their family.

🌼See the need for a PLAN B, in the event their career, or their husband’s career, goes away.

🌼Are driven, busy and solution oriented.

🌼Want to RETIRE sooner and LIVE BETTER, when they do.

🌼Want to say YES to opportunities for their children, instead of “we can’t afford that”.

🌼Are in a job where they know they are WORTH way more than they are getting paid.

Have you ever thought ANY of these things? Do some even keep you up at night?? 🌙 Then keep reading…👇🏻👇🏻👇🏻
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One of my VISIONS for The Refinery was to offer a place and an opportunity that EMPOWERS women with this very MINDSET to be collaborate and grow a business TOGETHER. We are a team full of women that are drivers, not passengers. We have visions for ourselves and are willing to work and sacrifice for what we want.
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One of the things I love MOST about my team, is that although we all have different life circumstances, we all have this SAME INDEPENDENT “I GOT this” kind of MINDSET. 
It feels so awesome to be in the JAM with like-minded women helping each other build our vision.

If you are cut from this same cloth, (yeah- you already KNOW who you are ladies), I want to talk with you! Why? 
Because you have that ambition that I am looking for and want to mentor. I know you have great ideas and your drive would be a GREAT ADDITION to our Refinery Team culture and we’d offer YOU an empowering environment that feels like HOME.
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📌I am looking for FIVE women that fit this very mindset to closely mentor over the next 6 months. 
Isn't it time to stop watching and wishing start DOING and ACHIEVING? If you are a woman that has been feeling this way, like we all used to, then let's chat more. 🙆. Contact me me for details <3

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Network Marketers: Unethical, Ruthless & Half Shady

Scam Business

We’ve all fallen for the FILTERS.

We compare our marriages.
We compare our children.
We compare our looks.
🛑 But THIS is about filters used when we are told compare our company.
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Yes- this rant is LONG. ⏰
This post has been a few years coming and it’s not picking on one person specifically. It is in regards to the growing Network marketing industry of distributors as a whole. Many of which feel its good business practice to bash & blame others.🔨🔨
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Maybe I've listened to too much Gary V this week, but I'm fired up over so much smoke and mirror crap that makes the rest of us look bad.😡
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↗️ Network marketing is on the rise, and that’s a really promising thing as it can be an effective way to start a business & earn income without all the stress and expenses of a traditional business. 
↘️ But like ANY industry there can be some not so great workers, core values & business practices. 
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👇🏼The remainder of this post is for those ambitious people looking to start a network marketing business. 👉🏼If you are already are one, then it could be an opportunity to level up and improve our industry practices. As someone that’s been a respected, successful and seasoned leader in the industry for 7 years, I will cut through the crap and share what good practice and companies look like.💙
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1️⃣ SUSTAINABILITY MATTERS: Just as every brand new car rolls out of production shiny and sexy, new business launches & promises can appear the same. Expect a lot of hype, marketing and incentive to get excitement and productivity. 💥
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However... will that company road test and hold up through challenges like creating a new and constant pipeline of innovative products for you and do they have the corporate experience in place to launch them successfully? 
Will they survive supply & production deficits? 
Can they persevere economy & market fluctuations, changes in political leaders & government & state policy changes? 
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That all lies ahead. It’s why the majority of companies crumble after the first few years. 〽️
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You want to look for proven sustainability through all these challenges. Are you willing to take that risk with an unproven venture and start all over again if it proves to be like the majority of new businesses that go under after a few years?
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❓Remember MonaVie?
❓Remember Visalus? 
❓Remember Direct Cellars? 
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Has Beachbody suffered some of these bumps and dents along the way? Oh hell yes. All businesses do and will. If someone paints a picture that their shiny new business is the answer to everything MLM ….you are in for a bumpy & risky ride ahead. 
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My advice is go with a company that’s sustained at least SOME of the above challenges, is proven road worthy and has shown it is capable of surviving several tides. 🌊
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This morning I had someone message me that "I should look into their business because Beachbody went through a valley in 2016/17 and theirs was new, easier and more “promising”." 🙄
The rest was scripted, like so many others, I barely skimmed it. BTW- I can't stand those "Hey girl" copy/paste impersonal scripts.
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💡--> Asking anyone already in the industry to jump ship will only capture you low lying temporary fruit. 
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If my kids wanted to quit anything because it was hard I'd say “Stick it out. What can YOU do to make it better if it's important to you?” 
There’s refining that happens when you are challenged to level up instead of give up. If you don’t you’ll take your same bullshit to your next “promising” new pony show. 🐴
💡I don’t want fairweather kids, friends or business partners.
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👉🏼Nor should you. 
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I don't ask people to be, nor do I want to go find that kind of mentality of person for my own business. 
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I am not a “jump ship” shiny object kind of business leader, nor would I suggest you join a leader that is. 
🤔 In the back of my mind I’d wonder, “If we become biz partners are you going to jump ship on THIS biz when times get tough (because they will get tough) and move on?” 
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The best companies and people in history were built better through the tough times. 
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💣Truth Bomb: If there’s still a ton of brand new success & growth happening in the organization, the problem wasn't the with company.
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It’s was with THEM.
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2️⃣ BIZ KNOWLEDGE: If someone is going to pitch you, or post about their business and how it compares, they need to understand wtf they are even talking about. Understanding the FTC regulations and their own corporate comp plan is a good place to start. 
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💸 When one says “all my efforts made my upline rich” when in reality they & their team were barely producing ANY volume or couldn’t even hold a first tier rank for years shows that he/she knows nothing about how a binary comp plan even works. 
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📆 Or, if they say “Get in early” then that’s also a sign they have zero knowledge of how a legit, sustainable MLM operates because regardless of when you join, you still have to GROW your business, to earn.
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The claims look foolish and false...and for the business savvy people that KNOW BETTER, it’s embarrassing to the industry to see on social. Distributors that don’t understand the difference from a front loaded pyramid scheme to a long sustainable direct sales comp plan, will put filters on their financial promises to you.
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My advice is to invest your time and efforts in what has shown to be harder, but sustainable. ➡️
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3️⃣ MINDSET MATTERS: When someone bashes and is the VICTIM blaming their lack of growth on something other than THEMSELVES, 100% of the time they will struggle to succeed. Why? Because they haven’t really owned their habits. They aren’t honest with themselves or you and instead put on a pretty filter and present themselves as they WANT YOU to view them. 
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4️⃣ BEHAVIORS: Six reasons I’ve seen why people don’t thrive and grow in this industry:

- They think they worked hard, but really didn’t. (Hustle is subjective by the way. Hustle to one person may look more like a coma for another)

- They didn’t hustle consistently because he/she easily / often distracted by struggle, life, fun or drama.

- They spent time on the wrong behaviors thinking it was “work”. (I've been totally guilty of this one at times over the years, and my numbers showed for it)

- They were not an ongoing “student of their business” evolving and changing with the times. Especially when it came to marketing.

- They built a gossipy shallow sorority, not a volume producing professional business.

- Lastly, they wanted EASY. I’ve yet to read a business book anywhere that says financial success or growing a business is easy. They all say you bust your ass and reinvent yourself. Over and over again. In the words of Gary V…”I WANT what’s tedious and hard because I know very FEW people are willing to do it.”
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So how would one HIDE their real day to day behaviors to you? They put a filter on it. The filter comes in blame and bullshit excuses. Don't fall for the illusion. Look for real ownership.
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💣 The irony is that when they put a filter on it, they are going to ATTRACT THE VERY PEOPLE to their business that delight in their validation & excuses. 
👉🏼And their excuses, will eventually become their teams excuses. Mark my word. 
👉🏼And saying they don’t want to work that hard, will attract people that will agree with them 100% because...they won’t want to either. Mark my word. 
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5️⃣ CLASS MATTERS: Are they bashing one business or person to sell theirs? 
They shouldn’t have to if they have something great to offer. Why aren’t they busy talking about THAT?? 
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🇬🇧 As my British husband would say, “Don't look like a twat”.
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🕺🏻Positively sell YOU...and let the market decide for themselves if they want what you have to offer. 
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I share this filter-less and raw image of network marketing because I do believe Network Marketing is the best financial, low cost model out there, especially for the self driven Type A person. 🥇
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😣But with so many emerging, bashing one another, seemingly weekly, these marketing smoke and mirrors and promises are being laid on thick. I get hit up weekly by a pitch and see so much garbage on social it’s embarrassing to this business. I finally had to say SOMETHING. ⭐️Because badass companies and classy distributors ACTUALLY DO EXIST.
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💎I want you to know what to look for behind the curtain both in a quality company and sponsor. In addition to my own business & business partners, I have my favorite list of other sustainable companies and successful distributors I’m happy to share if you are looking for both a real and quality business opportunity.
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This industry already has such a negative stigma to break through. Can we please not make it harder on ourselves?🤐

Now how about we use our business to BLESS people's lives instead of making us all look like novice business assholes? 🤪


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Mastering Your Influence....Chapter One.

Preface

 

Communicating effectively is essential for success in all aspects of life, including marriage, business, and even tattoos. My friend’s daughter Emma was recently finalizing a design for a new tattoo and asked my daughter for her opinion. 

 

My 16-year-old daughter has studied Japanese culture extensively and is fluent in the Japanese language. Emma was planning to get a Japanese “kanji” tattoo, so she had the good sense to check with an expert before getting permanently inked. A tattoo acquired at the age of 20 will be with you for quite some time, so getting the translation right is a good idea! The intended meaning of her tattoo was “change,” specifically, a transformation in the girl’s life.   

 

My daughter started laughing, because the direct translation of  the kanji the tattoo artist choose for “life change” in Japanese translated to “menopause.” 

 

Not exactly the “life change” symbol 20 year old Emma was wanting to express.

 

While accuracy in communication can be pretty important, how you communicate is an essential element as well. This is an area I struggled with for a very long time. It wasn’t until fairly recently that I really found my “voice,” and finally became a truly effective influencer. This has applied not only to public speaking, but also to many other areas of my life such as parenting, leading my business team, coaching sports, and even influencing the homeowners association.  If you’ve ever been a part of an HOA, then you know the latter is probably the most difficult of all. By sharing my discoveries with you, you will have the tools to become a more influential and impactful communicator, too.

 

 

Chapter One

Embarrassed and Paralyzed

 

Before you start on your journey to become an influential communicator, I’ll share my journey with you, so you can see how I reached this point. The path to great communication isn’t always smooth sailing.

 

The Beginning of It All

For me, the importance of communication and its effects on influence were clear early on in life — in fact, it all started on one particular day. The year was 1978, and I was a 6-year-old girl who stuttered and desperately wanted to be part of a team.  Being dyslexic, I wasn’t a very strong student, so sports seemed like a promising way for me to find my “tribe.” Already being an only child, I didn't want to play an individual sport; my heart longed to contribute to a team effort. I wasn’t looking to be a star player, or even a leader; I was simply looking to belong somewhere. 

 

Like many of us as children, I wanted so badly to “fit in.”

 

You see, not only was I a poor student, but I didn’t see myself as a cute little girl at that time. I was an awkward tomboy. I even looked like a boy. After the 1976 Olympics, a U.S. figure skater named Dorothy Hamill emerged and dominated pop culture after she took home the gold medal. She was an adorably feminine, short-haired, young woman. My mom assumed Dorothy’s hair cut would also be just as adorable on me, so she cut my very thick and cowlick-filled hair like Dorothy’s. What was totally cute on the world-class skater resembled something more like a thick, blonde guinea pig sitting on my little head. 

 

It wasn’t even the “bad haircut gone wrong” kind of cute. It was just bad.

 

In my 6-year-old mind, belonging to a team would fix all of my social problems. I chose soccer for three reasons. Firstly, my parents grew up in Belize. In Central America, playing soccer is a natural childhood ritual, so of course, my dad wanted me to play the sport closest to his heart. 

 

Secondly, that summer, our country was captivated and inspired by the excitement of the 11th World Cup and watching a passionate Argentina win the championship over the Netherlands. 

 

Lastly, growing up in Florida, we watched and attended several Rowdies games, as they were our local professional U.S. soccer team.   

 

Soccer was an obvious choice for me. Not only was soccer in my blood, but my family could also afford it. My parents were in their early 20s, and like many young couples, they didn’t have a lot of disposable income. Compared to other sports, soccer equipment was affordable (at least it was then before the modern day “club” circuit took over!). Hey, all I needed was a ball, shin guards, and cleats.

 

Over the next few weeks, my mom managed to scrape together a few dollars, and we bought my first pair of cleats. I was so excited to “suit up” in my gear. Lacing up my shoes made me feel like I was part of a team, without even attending my first practice. I wore my cleats around the house until my mom told me they were causing dents in the wood floor. I had so much excitement and anticipation built up inside over the first practice that I couldn't even sleep! I lay in bed thinking about being a member of the team and being appreciated for my contributions. But, what was supposed to be the debut of my childhood dream ended up sending me home—heartbroken and in tears.

 

What wasn't obvious to me was that girls in the 1970s traditionally didn’t play soccer. Soccer was considered a world-class sport played primarily by boys and men. I showed up on that sunny south Florida day, and instead of getting a warm team welcome, I felt like I annoyed the current players with my presence on their field.

 

To add to my alienation, I didn’t realize that those bargain cleats my mom bought and I was wearing so proudly were actually softball cleats.  

 

White softball cleats.  

 

They were not even close to resembling the black leather cleats my male counterparts were sporting on their feet. At an age where most 6-year-old girls would have dreamed of having sparkling princess shoes, in that moment all I wished for was black leather cleats. 

 

There I stood in those bright white shoes with no choice but to suck it up and continue. I lined up single file for my very first drill. The coach asked me to go first and handed me the ball. He instructed me to dribble the ball to the cone and back. I only knew “dribbling” as a basketball term. Although it seemed an odd request, I obeyed and awkwardly basketball-dribbled the ball down the grass field. Hearing the uncontrollable laughter of my teammates turned my face beet-red with embarrassment.  

 

“Why didn't he just tell me to run and kick the ball?” I thought, seething in anger. Now I also feel like a moron for not knowing the right terminology.

 

After that first practice, I went home crying, hurt by the ridiculing, mocking and alienation I had endured. What was supposed to be a glorious debut was instead a day I wished I could have erase from my memory forever.

 

Needless to say, I was ready to quit after what was then the worst two hours of my life. I was 100 percent certain that I would never play again. I would've walked away from the sport forever had it not been for two very different conversations that night with my parents.

 

My mom, of course, wanted to protect my feelings and immediately offered great solutions: “We can find you another activity,” she said. “You can play an instrument, be a cheerleader, or take ballet. I can work an extra few shifts at the hospital and we can get you soccer shoes if you still want to play. I will help you fit in, Sweetie. I can go to the library and get a soccer book that will help you with soccer terms and rules.” All of these were great solutions and alternatives, yet none of them motivated me to ever step back on that field with those boys again. 

 

My dad waited for my mom to finish, which was rare for his excitable nature. But this time, he did. “How do you feel right now?” he asked. 

“Kinda mortified. Horribly humiliated and embarrassed,” I replied.  

 

“Do you want to feel that way forever?” 

 

I wasn’t sure where he was going with his question.

He then enthusiastically insisted that I was born to play on a team. He told me I deserved to be on not only that field, but on any field just like everyone else. He reinforced my belief that I could be a leading scorer and my team would be missing out if I were not a part of it. He told me that winning wasn't about the type or size of the dog in the fight, but the size of the fight in the dog.  

 

And if I didn’t want to feel embarrassed for the rest of my life over this, I had to do something about it. I had to change the trajectory. “Seay, this is not about the color of your shoes, the lack of experience or knowledge, or that you are a girl. This is about YOU and what you are made of. They win if you quit. Don’t quit without a fight. Prove them wrong.”  

 

He went on to remind me of the passion I had before the practice. He reminded me of the promising thoughts I had stirring in my head the night before. He reminded me what it would have meant for my life to belong. “Do you really want to give all that up over trivial things?”

 

His words didn't fully resonate with me that evening, but even though nothing had changed in my physical environment, I saw that his words had the capacity to change my mental situation. He wasn’t quite finished yet though. He said, “You still have a choice to make.” 

I also didn't know it at the time, but how I processed this advice would propel me down a road of future choices that I would continue to follow for the rest of my life. 

 

He put it this way: "You can spend your time staying safe on the sidelines of life while cheering for someone else's accomplishments, or you can be out there on the field of life taking risks while others are cheering for your accomplishments. The choice is yours. On which side do you see yourself, Seay?”

 

There was no question of what I was going to do or where I saw myself. With my white plastic softball cleats and the humiliation and rejection of being a girl in a boy’s sport, I chose to be the “dog” with passion in her heart on a mission to prove them all wrong. In that moment, I choose to own my place on that darn team.  

 

I’m certain they were all shocked when I returned to the field that next practice. But this time, I wasn’t going down without a fight; I wasn't going to give them that power. 

Yes, I was scared I was going to be rejected again. There were even moments when I let my sale-priced plastic shoes define my worth on that field. And yes, I was terrified that despite all of my commitment and passion, I would still end up being a lousy soccer player. But when I returned for my second practice, my head was high and I was once again ready to play and be a part of the team.

 

Two weeks later, I had earned a striker position from my coach. My job was to score goals, and although I didn't have much in the way of ball skills at the time, I had tremendous speed and intuitive timing. We won our first match of the season with a 2-0 victory as a result of two goals that I scored!    

 

After the game, my dad was jumping, cheering, and sprinting onto the field. He resembled a circus clown debuting in the big top!

 

He yanked that white cleat off my right foot and held it up high for the entire team to see. “Let’s agree that everyone was able to clearly see Seay's two fabulous winning goals because of these glorious bright white shoes! No one could have missed her moves!" he boasted with fatherly pride. 

 

Wouldn’t you know, by the end of the season I was the leading scorer on the team, and I was one of the star players in the entire league. Over the course of the season, no one cared that I was the only girl in the league or that on my first day I had dribbled the ball with my hands. 

 

As for those white softball shoes, not only did my teammates stop making fun of them, but they started buying white cleats themselves! Those white shoes actually started a little trend in Ft. Lauderdale, FL that season.   Suddenly, they were no longer plastic softball cleats; they were beautiful, proper, white leather soccer cleats. 

 

My father's words at the most crucial time changed my life forever. While my mom offered great “solutions,” my dad’s words instilled a “belief” in me that I could fulfill my passion. I didn’t realize it at the time, but I also learned a valuable lesson in communication that would prove to be critical at a later time in my life, which is what I’m going to share with you.

 

I continued to play soccer throughout my childhood. I played varsity soccer as a freshman in high school, was named All County player of the year, was voted the player with “Most Inspiration and Leadership” in my senior year, was captain of my team, earned a spot on the “Florida All State” soccer team, and earned an athletic scholarship to a college in North Carolina.  There, I was the third-leading scorer in the nation, NCAA Division II, and I was again voted the player with the “Most Inspiration and Leadership.”  

 

Each of those soccer accolades, all of those amazing experiences, and even a college scholarship could have been completely lost due to one lousy, miserable day of soccer practice. Yet all was salvaged due to one successful conversation… I’m thankful for my parents and the conversations they had with me that fall night back in 1978.

I’m aware today that both of my parents spoke to me using completely different “languages.”

That speaking style changed the course of my entire life.  And by defining and sharing it with you, that when you are in a position of influence, as a parent, a sports coach, a leader, a politician, teacher or a business owner that it will change yours.

 Seay Eyles, 1978  Bottom Row, 2nd from the end (with the white cleats and bowl cut)

Seay Eyles, 1978

Bottom Row, 2nd from the end (with the white cleats and bowl cut)

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Detox through Cupping

“How exactly do you detox?”🤷🏼‍♀️
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I do food detoxes, light therapy, use essential oils and of course...weekly cupping 😍.
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Unlike massage which pushes toxins downward to be absorbed and excreted, cupping sucks toxins up to and out of, your skins surface...our biggest organ. 👌🏼
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It’s a procedure that’s been around since 1550 BC and my guy Michael Canizio is my local go-to EXPERT. 
He’s been cupping me weekly, for a year and doing my massage therapy for over 17 years. 
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Why the detoxing? After learning
that many of my health problems stemmed from my silicone implants seeping their 40+ known toxins in my body I wanted to actively work to get all the chemicals OUT of my body. 
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Getting the implants, and their capsules removed from your body isn’t enough, the toxins seep into our lymph nodes and organs over time and also need to be removed. That’s a bit trickier. 
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💕 So here’s to my weekly cupping, if you have a person locally that is experienced in it, I highly recommend it, even if it’s just for wellness maintenance 🌸
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⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️⭐️
Wondering what 40+ known toxins are in silicone (whether saline or silicone filled) implants??? 

Read on sistahs....
Here are some of the approximate 40 known toxic chemicals in silicone:

☠️ Methyl Ethyl Ketone, Cyclobexanone, Isopropyl Alcohol, Denatured Alcohol, Acetone, Urethane, Poly Vinyl Chloride, Lacquer Thinner, Ethyl Acetate, Epoxy Resin, Epoxy Hardener, Amine, Printing Ink, Toluene, Freon, Silica, Flux, Solder, Chlorplantinic Acid, Metal Cleaning Acid, Formaldehyde, Talcum Powder, Chlorplatinic Acid, Metal Cleaning Acid, Formaldehyde, Talcum Powder, Color Pigment Printers Ink, Oakite, Cyanoacyrylates, Ethylene Oxide, Carob Black, Xylene, Hexone, Benzene, Hexanone, Thixon-OSN-2, Rubber, Acid Stearic, Zinc Oxide, Naptha, Phenol, Methylene Chloride, Platinum Salts, Platinum, Tin and other heavy metals ☠️
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If you wanna wiki each of these above chemicals you will see that they are defined as either
👉🏼 cytotoxic, (toxic to cells)
👉🏼 neurotoxic, (toxic to nerves)
👉🏼 carcinogenic cancer causing) &
👉🏼 harsh irritants to live tissues (lymph nodes and organs) causing inflammation and possible autoimmune responses. 
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Plastic surgeons probably don’t talk about the ingredients in silicone and that silicone will react with your body because im thinking that most wouldnt buy implants if they knew the truth. 🤷🏼‍♀️
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Now some of ya do ✌🏼

Cupping after Breast Implant Illness

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